Recently I’ve been noticing that the word “anxiety” and “anxious” have been permeating most of the conversations I’m partaking. For some people anxiety reveals itself as a form of unconformity or discomfort when something doesn’t happen as expected. Some people feel tired or sleepy, others feel their heart beating faster, some people feel shaky, others feel hungry, thirsty, agitated, confused and others even start feeling pain, not to mention migraine, stomachache, dizziness, nausea… In other words, that is the message that our body is sending us telling (or sometimes yelling) that something is not going well and needs to be changed.
Anxiety has been considered as the 21st century’s disorder. But why do we feel anxious anyway? In the holistic medicine field it is said that the root of anxiety lies on the feeling of fear. And the foundation of fear, in this matter, would be basically not being present in the moment, but rather stuck in the past or overly concerned about the future.
When we are in the moment we are able to acknowledge our power to change the things we dislike and find the desired solutions. In addition, we can be more creative and also be receptive to new ideas and insights widening the view of the current circumstances enabling our capacity to see the big picture and thus breathe and finally relax a bit more. Isn’t it all we need?
One thing we should always consider is that It doesn’t matter what kind of problem you’re facing right now, you can always change the way you see the problem and discover new solutions. Imagine if a friend of yours call you telling the exact same story you’ve been telling yourself recently; what would you say to your friend? What would be your advise for him or her?
You can also start with a “to do” list of the things that are doable for you right now. That itself can help you organize your thoughts and give you more energy and confidence to achieve your goals.
And if you realize you can’t do it alone, it’s perfectly fine to ask for help. I would text a friend, or even look for a supportive group (I love the codependents anonymous); you can also go to a church, a temple, buy some books, call a therapist or a life coach. It doesn’t matter where or how you are going to do that; take a deep breathe and start right now.
The reality that sometimes hurts us and is heavy to carry on is actually the path to bring awareness and build a strong bridge to happiness and success. Nobody grows without taking responsibility over their own actions. So stop blaming on others (God and significant others included); stop complaining, stop bothering; grab a pen and a piece of paper and if you like you can write down the answer for the following questions:
What can you do today to start changing your life? (Write as many answers you can; don’t think too much, it can be anything)
Whenever you finish that list go to the next question:
What is going to be the next step?
You can come up with 10 different answers, choose one that is doable today, then follow through. I’m sure you can do it. You’re accountable for your own life. You are your own best friend; treat yourself with love, patience and respect and start designing the life you want. At the end of the day you’ll be truly grateful for managing your anxieties and fighting your own fears.